It’s easy to see the mountains we need moved “out there” in our circumstances, but sometimes we need internal mountains moved instead!
That’s where I am today.
My Mental Mountain
Following a bit of overnight introspection after losing it yesterday over something trivial, I’ve had a bit of an epiphany.
For me, tasks communicate.
Tasks done well for others communicates respect and consideration. This has been a part of my mental framework for as long as I can remember.
I communicate caring for my father every morning when I place his coffee mug on the counter with the handle facing left, next to the sugar bowl with the spoon facing the same way. Can you guess why? He uses his left hand for everything after he lost his right one years ago.
I communicate love for my husband every night when I make his tea, wrapping the tea tag around his handle the way he likes it.
Tasks can also communicate the opposite. Tasks not completed as expected or not done at all are understood as coming from a lack of caring or consideration for others.
Since I have this mental framework that tasks communicate value, I have a surprisingly deep emotional attachment to them.
And so here we are at my epiphany, dawning on gray hair after 52 years of this life.
You may wonder why this comes as a surprise to me. Well, you know how we sometimes forget that not everyone sees the world through the same filters we do?
That’s my epiphany. Tasks don’t hold the same meaning or carry the same emotional weight for others as they do for me. Mind blown. Seriously.
I have taken offense many times when I “heard” that either I or someone I love doesn’t deserve respect or consideration, when in fact that wasn’t the message being delivered at all!
Mountain Movin’ Time!
I’ve realized that I have a mental mountain that needs tearing down and moved out of the way so I can “hear” clearly, but I need help after so many years of seeing tasks through my own filter.
Thank goodness I’ve got a Mighty Mountain Mover who’s on my side!
Then Jesus said to the disciples, “Have faith in God. I tell you the truth, you can say to this mountain, ‘May you be lifted up and thrown into the sea,’ and it will happen. But you must really believe it will happen and have no doubt in your heart. I tell you, you can pray for anything, and if you believe that you’ve received it, it will be yours.Jesus, in Mark 11:22-24 NLT
How can I believe he’ll move this mighty mountain and help me understand others’ intentions with grace and mercy? Because I know this mountain of misunderstanding is in the way of my becoming more like him.
I am not what I was, and I am still not what I will be. But I am a work in progress!
And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.Philippians 1:6
With his help, I will learn to listen clearly. What a lesson to learn as we approach Christmas, wouldn’t you agree?
For a child is born to us, a son is given to us. The government will rest on his shoulders. And he will be called: Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.Isaiah 9:6
Now it’s your turn!
What is an epiphany you’ve had about how the way you see things differs from how others perceive them? I’d love to hear about it in the comments below.
I’m praying that your Christmas Season is full of hearing from our Wonderful Counselor!
4 thoughts on “Mighty Mountain Mover”
Love, love, love this! I do many things to show love toward others which they often don’t notice, and it can be hurtful sometimes when I realize my efforts have “gone to waste.” Reminding myself that changing my own heart and showing love to people just for the “heck of it,” not looking for recognition or to be repaid in kind, has been a long and bumpy road for me. I’m glad I’m learning this lesson now, at age 27, but I’m also fully aware that there are things I’m doing now that I will not realize I’m doing poorly until I’m twice my current age! Interacting with people and making friends has been an ever-present mountain that I suspect I will be struggling to shift my whole life; I am not a good in-person communicator and my body language seems to be “off” just enough to make other people feel uncomfortable. Since effective communication is such a prominent part of everyday life, I’m sorry to admit it’s damaged my ability to progress positively in every area of life, not just socially, and from it have sprung–you guessed it–even more hills that need moving. I have a whole mountain range I’d love to take a leveler to. Thank you for reminding me to contact the Landscaper!
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I completely understand your body language struggle, as I deal with the same issue. What’s going on in my head doesn’t always match what’s showing on my face! It’s another area of learning for me. Know you’re not alone in your journey of living out the new life we’ve been given! ❤️
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Karla, you are such an encourager! Thank you for understanding and cheering me on as I run the race set before me. I’m praying for you!
Oh, Lauri. I can relate SO much! I consider myself considerate! I notice the little things and am very observant. I’m not observant about physical traits, but in tasks or acts that truly emphasize authenticity. It was so hard for me to realize that just because I do, feel, or react in a certain way doesn’t mean others will. Yes, this should be learned at a young age. I’m 52 and I have struggled with the technology/communication habits of “younger” generations. Perhaps I’m an old soul? I know that I can’t change others; only myself. I have to love people where they are. A huge shift came to me in my late twenties when I realized religion did not serve me~but that I serve a Savior to whom I long for…it was a relationship. The mental mountains are tough. Covid came and more mental mountains try to emerge. Cancer came and a few more grew. But as always…Love came DOWN and I’m conquering mountains because there is only ONE who truly moves them and you know and live this truth my friend. Thank you for always encouraging us! And for being that task minded servant that “does in love”. It’s so beautiful, Lauri! God bless you! 🙏🏻💚
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